The true delima of population control

I have a third child.  A child that would not exist were my ideas on population control, those of China, to be in effect.
The dilemma of population control is not a religious dogma.  The fact that religious zealots prevent us from considering hard choices is a mere side show, putting off the inevitable until it is too late.  They are merely destroying their own children's quality of life because of what they were told by someone else.
The real dilemma is choosing who should have children and who should not.  You can put the limits anywhere you want.  You can say that people who are not intelligent enough, not athletic enough, not pink enough or not dark enough, you can do like the Chinese and say that it is based on some random number...one, two, etc.  Somewhere, you have to draw lines.
If you fail to do something hard, you doom everyone.  The dilemma is whether to doom everyone or not.
I believe this question is easy to answer.  The Chinese limit families to two children   And I was the third child.